Poll after poll confirms what many of us already knew. Over 55% of people surveyed admitted to cheating on their partner and least once irregardless whether it is marriage or a dating relationship. Still many of us do not connect it to our own lives.
A cheating spouse always happens to someone else. With millions of couples this is true but infidelity is still a reality with far too many others. If you are having suspicions about your partner, it might be a good idea to pay a little more attention to the dynamics of your relationship. Unless they are flat out asking for it, catching a cheating partner takes detective work (within reason) and a non obvious approach. What are some things to look for? 1. Distance You cannot pinpoint when it happened but you start to notice that your partner has lost interest in a lot of relationship activities including things to do with the family and household.
The conversations are also more strained. Whatever communication the two of you had seems to be disappearing. It's like pulling teeth to get them to say anything other than okay and uh-huh. If you ask them what's wrong they say nothing or give some non committal answer.
If they are cheating this could mean the attraction factor for the other person is growing. More room for them, less for you. 2. Physical Cheating on a spouse or dating partner takes a certain amount of skill but no one is perfect. Sometimes you can spot the signs quite easy such as a change of fragrance and appearance for no apparent reason or the old stand by lipstick on the collar.
Some are little bit more subtle like new interest. Naturally as a person you always want to grow but be on guard against sudden unexplained taste in music or food particularly if in the past they expressed reservations about these same topics. Take note also of the work hours. They may have a job that requires long work hours but gage to see if it doesn't sometimes strike you as something out of the ordinary. 3. The Calls It's not as easy to catch someone cheating especially in the age of mobile phones and text messaging.
But observe if your partner is receiving calls at more inappropriate times and the frequency especially if it seems to be the same number over and over again. 4. Irritable.
For some reason, when you do get pass the okay and uh-huh parts, the conversations are a bit more combative. Every couple has arguments but you sense that it's more than usual and in many cases for no reason. Irritable may indicate that there is some guilt at work and that they are starting to blame you for "interfering" with their happiness. .
You always hope it's not true but infidelity does exist and catching a cheating spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend can be tough. In the meantime doubt and uncertainty can take their emotional toll on you. If you do suspect something is going on then its best to find out sooner rather than later.
There are of course many other indicators to watch for but for now take notice of any shifts in your relationships and stay focused to the potential warning signals.
Article by Daryl Campbell -The Relationship Tip -You suspect your partner is cheating on you. Now here's what NOT to do